Other people are not medicine.It took me 9 years to figure that out (via shante-atthedisco)
1: You are not lazy, you are ill.
2: You are not selfish for taking care of yourself.
3: You are not arrogant for loving yourself.
4: It’s okay to feel sad, but it’s not okay to let the sadness win.
5: Your worth isn’t defined by if a person does or does not love you.
6: Do not put all of your happiness into one person. Ultimately you have to be your own hero.
7: A healthy person does not wish to be sicker. There is no such thing as “not sick enough”.
8: It’s okay to be alone every once in a while.
9: A bad day doesn’t equal a bad life.
10: Sometimes not giving into your addictions will make you feel worse in that moment than if you had given in, but honestly, the worst days in recovery are better than the best days in relapse.
11: Strategies and techniques are your new best friend.
12: Eating doesn’t mean you’re weak.
13: Not eating doesn’t mean you’re strong.
14: The words ‘f*ck it’ do come in handy once in a while.
15: Your feelings are valid simply because you’re feeling them. You do not need to justify yourself.
16: Never feel guilty for being sad because “someone has it worse than you”.
17: People are not perfect. They will offend you, hurt you and let you down from time to time, but this can be from lack of understanding; it does not mean that they don’t love you.
18: You are not a burden.
19: You have to learn to love yourself before you can fully love someone else.
20: Do not let your illness define or limit you.
21: Don’t be afraid to walk away from toxic relationships/friendships.
22: Do the things you love. Every. Single. Day.
23: It’s okay to be different.
24: Good things can, do, and will happen to you.
25: Recovery is not about being strictly happy, it’s about learning to become whole.
26: You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. So stop analyzing it and wondering about what you could’ve or should’ve done. Learn to let go.
27: Letting go isn’t a one time thing, you need to do it over and over again.
28: The bad things people say about you, actually are reflections of what they think of themselves, not you.
29: Everything seems bad when it’s 3am.
30: You’re not worthless, you’re priceless.
31: One day this pain will all make sense to you. There are things you need to learn.
32: Ultimately it’s only your opinion of yourself that matters. Do what makes YOU happy.
33: U hella rad.Things I’ve learned in recovery. (via lindsaylately)
Sometimes on long car journeys, I look down and see my hands linked inside each other and I become aware of how warm and soft and safe they feel.
And never am I wishing one of them was yours because it’s wouldn’t be nearly as pleasant.
Skin is an itchy coat that only gets kinder with age.
I got a lot prettier when I realised I didn’t give a shit about what anyone else thought.
I have to break my fingers apart though; Just to compare to how cold I felt before.
This is what recovery always is for me.
I dip my toe just so I am sure that what I have now is better.
If you enter the river blindfolded you’re bound the fall into the current
But the air you breathe when you splutter to the surface will be lightest brightest air you ever filled yourself with.
When I’m really thirsty. Truly, bad taste in the back of my throat thirsty, I get myself the coldest glass of water and pretend like it’s the first water I’ve ever tasted.
I’m not religious but there is magic in a pint glass of icy water and sticky parched tongue. Miracles have happened for less and I’m not about to argue with the suggestion that I spend too much time in my head, I know I do, but I wouldn’t spend a second in anyone else’s.
I wish more people linked their own hands for long periods of time and stopped
Pretending that they aren’t both their own. You need to learn to trust your hands to touch your own body without it combusting because it’ll be a holocaust if some else’s touches you first.
This is not a poem about failure; I know that now.
*”Holocaust pre-WWII meant the complete destruction of something. “
You can interpret in your own ways why I used this word, It is not intended to be offensive.
Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.Alain de Botton (via cattedrali)
You have to find the right distance between people. Too close, and they overwhelm you, too far and they abandon you.Hanif Kureishi (via un-exotic)